Infosys Jackpot....A Curtain Raiser!

August 1, 2005

It was a glorious sunny Monday afternoon, balmy and hot, after a heavy meal from a friend's treat, it made you want to lie under a tree somewhere and look up at the sky slowly dozing off watching the clouds roll by. It was definitely not an afternoon to indulge in the mundane coding routine. Reluctantly I was returning to my work desk in one of the isolated conference rooms in Infosys headquarters, still not able to make peace with what I was giving up.

It was one of those seasons in Infosys when the account's work force was way higher than the building seating capacity. To mitigate the situation all seldom used conference rooms were converted into shared cubicles. I was more than happy to volunteer for the office space in the conference room which only meant I would be having more souls to talk to and less monitored:) With Yuvan's music in full swing filling the background, I resumed work and it was when I was googling for a software help that I accidentally stepped on the application form for the Most Viewed Game Show in one of the leading Tamil channels today, Jackpot.

I couldn't resist my temptation to download the form and see what details were required. The form was very simple and I decided to fill it up after finding my partners. This was one of the easiest tasks in the whole process. All I had to do was turn around and ask my team mates to spell their names. Without questioning they did the needful - not sure if that was their nature or my seniority had an effect. If the roles were reversed, I am not sure I would have been as easy as they were to me. I would have bombarded the person with my thousand questions:)!

The only stumbling block in the application which I felt would delay the mailing out of the application form the same day was the photographs. Fortunately we had an instant photo studio within the office campus which took care of this need. Yes, Infosys headquarters was a mini town in intself!!The next stop was at the courier desk which was also within the campus. Before sealing the envelope, I had a brain wave...I opened the application form and printed the letters "INFOSYS TEAM" right on top of the form and gave it to the courier personnel.

Though we were not too positive about being acknowledged, somewhere in the corner of my heart I was a little hopeful heavily banking on the Infosys tag!! All of us had sworn to secrecy - we were not going to discuss this with any of our kith and kin’s unless something came out of it. This was a safety measure just to avoid being objects of ridicule knowing our families well!!

August 4, 2005

The Thursday of the same week my doorman greeted me with a postcard I had received when I returned from work. In the cyber world where emails are ruling and everyone is going paperless, these old-fashioned post cards definitely look very cheap. My experience with these post cards are only advertisement usage and hence I was least inclined to even see the “From” address. I kept my plans for the post card simple - dump it in the trash bin after reaching my apartment.

When I walked up the stairs, the post card slipped my hands and fell into a small puddle of water collected near the stair case. I thought of ignoring it and proceed further but then my short stay in the land of milk and honey woke my social consciousness and I picked it up with utmost disgust only to leave it at its well deserved destination.

Water was dripping from the post card and there were kids running up and down the stairs. Just to avoid embarrassment I decided to dry the water on the card when I noticed the word "Congratulations". I was still thinking this was some fake notice with sycophancy terms calling for investments.

Curious me decided to read through and couldn't believe my eyes. The "Infosys Team" as was mentioned in the card, was selected for the Jackpot's elimination round in Salem on the Sunday of that week. I was too thrilled that I kept climbing the stairs until I realized I was in the wrong floor - I was 2 floors above my house.

I was extremely desperate about sharing this information with V and my partners in crime. We got into a conference call, shared our excitement with woos and coos, appreciated each other almost as though we had already won the 1 lac cash prize. Slowly we became conscious that all that had happened till then was just a plain invitation to the selection rounds which could go either way and our over excitement was unnecessary. Clueless on the details of the elimination round, what to expect, what not to expect, except for the venue - a famous hotel in Salem, we decided to trust our spontaneity and oratorical skills and got busy with the preparations for the trip. Our secrecy was still maintained at work though not with the immediate family.

August 7, 2005

On Sunday, the 3 of us with a dedicated escort boarded the train from Bangalore and the fourth musketeer was going to join us directly at the venue. We reached the hotel pretty early - I should say 2 hrs ahead in time. To kill time, we wandered in the streets of Salem, had a good brunch, made new friends at the venue, chatted with the members of the other teams and took enough tensions awaiting the last team mate who managed to get there only a minute before our scheduled slot.

There were close to 500 people gathered in the small reception area of the hotel. When we enquired around, we were pretty impressed to find that we were the only team who had managed to get through within 6 days of applying. The longest wait had been close to 2 years and many were in the range of 8 to 12 months. Though this was something very pleasing, we were not sure what was in store for us in the evaluation.

Our appointed time for the meeting was 12:45 p.m and when we were called in, it was quarter to 2! We were not surprised considering the mind-blowing Indian punctuality we are all so used to, but were enormously worried about the delay directly impacting the availability of lunch in one of the most famous hotels in Salem that we had eyed on, the minute we knew the venue for the prelims! It was a shame to miss lunch in this restaurant after being in Salem since the first blush and well past the lunch hr!! We were keeping our fingers crossed and during the friendly discussion with the panelists we did say as much!! The interview did not scale up any more than a friendly discussion and we were told to expect the results in 2 weeks.

We waved a quick bye to all our new pals, rushed to the restaurant just in time for their last batch, had a hearty meal and returned home late in the evening.

August 9, 2005

The Tuesday of the following week, I received a call on my cell phone when I was in the middle of a meeting. The key panelist broke the news that we were selected and were expected to report to the studio in 2 weeks for the shoot. I was completely unprepared for what he told me next. He startled me when he mentioned our episode was going to be a special program which will be telecasted on the New Year's Eve.

Taking our claims as dancers and singers seriously, he wanted us to come fully prepared for a live performance - to quote his sweet talk "special performance on a special occasion”! His elaboration was more than appropriate for me to get thoroughly convinced that ours was indeed a New Year day show! I never understood then that this was just their tactful move to keep us in good spirits during the shoot - more of a faux pas. God only knows how many teams they went around promising the special status.

We made a big announcement to the whole account at work beaming ear to ear including the "New Year" joke - to us it was not a joke then. We trusted them sincerely which now I feel very funny. With the permission of our managers we started practicing for the event. We were so much carried away by the "special" tag that we focused very little on the strategy for the game show and were busy working all the time on the "special performance"! We were going to dance to the devotional Song "Bho Shambho Shiva Shambho Swayambo", a beautiful composition by Sri Swami Dayananda Saraswati in Revathi Raaga set to Adi Taala.

Our singers, singing years of experience was a remarkable spectrum - one was close to a professional with 24 years of lessons when she herself was 26 years of age then and the other was a month old in the world of Carnatic music. But both of them perfectly complimented each other and their act was nothing short of a slick. A special mention to the novice who scaled up so effortlessly and the duo definitely stood out!

We dancers made our earnest efforts to match up to the singing and we sure did not let them down. With a major burden of the lack of necessary instruments to back up, it was a real challenge for our foot work to bring out the same effect as it would in a proper show. We still managed to take the best shot and were apprised during the dry run at work!!

We brainstormed on each one's introductory speech, acknowledged all critical feedback for the betterment of the recital, finalized our costumes and the order in which we would be standing on the Diaz, settled several logistics, paid attention to the minutest of all details as it was an event to treasure forever and we did not want to be anything lesser than perfect. All said and done we still hadn't spent a minute drafting the plan of action for the main game show!! Our prime focus took a full 360 degree turn - thanks to the organizer’s fair words on the exclusivity he painted for our entertainment. With abundant support from our family and friends, we were all set to face the camera on August 27, 2005.

A Comfortable Kanden Kadhalai

With last minute changes to our initial plans of catching up KK on a night show we settled down for a late matinee (4:45 p.m) on Saturday in Edison. As it was the eleventh hr decision, we literally had to beat the traffic to reach the venue on time. Inspite of all V's earnest efforts we were delayed by 20 minutes. When we entered the theatre Tamanna was rendering the dialogue "Theni kaara ponnu naan ...seeviduven seevi" which by then was very familiar to all our ears - thanks to the Sun TV promos.

I do plan to fill in the missed scenes but from the original movie, Jab We Met. They have meticulously copied frame by frame from the Hindi version with a few positive additions in the Tamil tale that watching either one wouldn't make any difference but for the language. In the copy act nothing has been spared. Right from the costumes - though they are absolutely inappropriate to the heroine's native town, camera work - any pair of eyes used to the Polaroid zooms in Bollywood wouldn't have failed to notice this, lead characters mannerisms without any interference of Tamanna/Bharath's individualism, expressions which remind you of Kareena/Shahid in a lot of places, nothing is spared.

Tamanna has done a good job with her homework - she gracefully tries to match up Kareena's role in JWM though the latter stands out in her performance. She does manage to get on our nerves with a few incongruous grimaces and grins but for most part of the movie she is tolerable. She admittedly has scaled up to real acting from just being a mere wax goddess pleasing her fans in a couple of duets in appealing costumes.

Bharath on the other hand has played it subtle which doesn’t pass muster. From the genre of movies he has done when establishing himself in the industry, the image I can best think of for Bharath is a proletariat handyman-next-door which he does with ease. The sophisticated, classy, cynical cultured chocolate boy representation is not what would suit Bharath to a T. Ineptly he has played the role of a high class business man where it is difficult to avoid seeing Shahid's face every time Bharath comes on screen especially in the second half.

The artist who has stolen the show beyond words is the often professional Santhanam. These days’ directors are obviously banking more on the comedians than their lead stars to help them save their deposit and this movie is no exception. Santhanam's efforts are paid very well. Evidently it is Santhanam and Tamanna who are outstanding and Bharath is immaterial.

When remaking a movie from a different language, it would be highly appreciated if the directors could take into the consideration the cultural differences we share. In the north where they are more inclined towards adapting the western culture, married lady eloping with another man and still maintaining the maternal relationship with her kids might be perfectly acceptable but to us it is gravely improper. Bharath stays depressed for a major part of the movie and the reason for his depression is his mom's extra marital affair and second marriage. They could have simply bypassed this event or corrected mid-course as the mother-son's plot was least significant in the movie, needless to say added no value.

Songs are barely all right with 2 numbers giving you a little sense of satisfaction. There were 2 of them soon after the intermission playing back to back which tested the patience of a lot of audience who chose to extend their break by walking out of the theatre. To me it was a great relief as it played a key role in retaining my toddler in his seat who was pretty restless by then. The solo song for Bharath looked to me like a deliberate inclusion to show off the star's dancing capabilities other than which there is nothing in the movie to showcase the stars worth.

A decent entertainer in a long while now when people have almost given up hopes expecting an A-Ok light subject and resorted to their precious DVD collection of evergreen favorites - a true light at the end of the tunnel.

One thing for sure is K.N. Maran is one hell of a business man. I can see that he keeps buying these off beat movies which are not that great (though this doesn’t fall under this category), and then advertises the hell out of it in his channel and makes more people watch it (read more revenue). After seeing the 50 million ads with the best clippings smartly edited so many times in a day, anyone would be easily convinced that they have to watch the movie at least once. Kanden Kadhalai is definitely worth watching at least once and not a let down unlike the earlier disasters:)!

Nostalgia Strikes........................

One of my friends blog on her mornings brought me back some of the lovely reminiscence of my badminton practice sessions and matches that I cherish forever. The only sport that all the girls in my school by default opt to play during the PT classes was badminton. All I remember is having a shortage of the equipments all the time which forced us to take turns playing the game even in a class of 6:) During an hr's class, the number of successful strikes each of us would have had will be much lesser than the number of times we would have had to exchange the racquets. Inside the dark, musty smelling indoor stadiums of Race course, Madurai was laid the foundation to my badminton courses!!

The days when I had to report for the matches are still fresh in my memory - I used to have to travel an hr by the local public transport (PRC service) to reach the destination. My house and the stadium were on either ends of the city. Route No.73A used to be my chariot - the bus would almost give me a mini tour of Madurai, steering through all the notorious suburbs and by the time one reaches the stadium you will be fairly familiar with at least the names of all the popular residential areas in Madurai!!

The best part of the matches have been these bus rides at the peep of the day - the brightening breeze with a delicate scent of nature, raw smell of the damp soil (Mann Vasanai) that rejuvenates every nerve of yours, the refreshing chillness that feels straight on your face, the devotional songs played at the most amplified volumes on the corners of every other road irrespective of any religiously significant days, hunger-passion cries of cows alternately coupled with barking sounds of stray dogs make it all serene and is definitely a positive influence in setting the mood for a game. One who has inhaled all this before a match is sure to walk out with the trophy!!

Just as I relocated from one school to another for my higher grades, my badminton choices also stepped up from shuttlecock to ball. In my brother's words, ball badminton is a game of 5 lazy bums:) and I only downgraded my preference and never upgraded as I claimed!! Till mid school I was practicing shuttle badminton and from high school onwards I conveniently settled down for ball badminton. As one half of the court is being shared by 5 people, the onus and pressure of the game is also equally shared. The only downside I can think of is the audience attention, which also gets distributed among the 5 players unless you have your own fan following squad dedicated to yourself in the cheering crowd:)

The most unforgettable experience of my ball badminton match series is the Zonals that we played in Kottambatti in '95. Though it’s almost 15 years since I played this match, it resides in my gray matter like it just happened yesterday. Being a student from one of the most reputable schools in Madurai (TVS Lakshmi), I always took pride in showing off my school badge just as a means to give off the academy's name especially in events where the participation was dominated from small schools in and around Madurai. Greater the reputation, higher is the expectation. We were no exceptions to this and satisfyingly we met the expectations with so much ease in all the qualifying matches. By the time we were ready for the finals there was absolutely no sign of tiredness in any of our faces. Many even thought we had taken byes and were playing direct finals. Thanks to all our competent opponents.

Going by the trend of the day we were pretty confident, rather I should say over-confident about the finals. The team that lined up on the other half of the court was adding to our belief - the tallest of the 5 girls was barely an inch over the bottom of the net which was roughly 4 ft above the ground! It was their home ground but still we could already sense the easy victory and were beaming from ear to ear when we took our respective positions waiting for the referee to blow the whistle. Having lost the toss we were on the receiving end of the serves but were very certain that we didn't even have to  change over from the right court to the left before all their 5 hands were down! We even doubted if the ball would cross the net in the first place!!

We had a very huge flock to cheer the teams - it appeared like the whole of Kotambatti was gathered in the grounds to witness the match! Much to our surprise the applauding force were cheering our team instead of their own which was actually a part of their super-strategy adopted to distract us which we realized pretty late - infact their approach worked way too well in their favor for more than half of the match. As naive as we were, we walked straight into their manipulation and paid a very high price - we lost the first set!!! Our trainer was extremely disappointed but she tried her level best to boost our spirits up. We played the second set with better hope and stronger determination which paid good results - We won:)

Now was the tie breaker - the opponent team had crafted their next smart plan of action to knock us off and taste the victory! They had identified their strong and weak opponents and had planned to direct all their strikes to the so-called shaky hands! I was shocked to know that they had spotted our 2 back hands as the weakest and the centre player who happened to be our captain as well, as the strongest. I was one of the back hand player:)

In the third set all the balls were clearly delivered only to the 2 of us carefully avoiding the captain. It was then we realised height doesn’t matter in this indigenous game..it was all about focus and target:) I was deeply upset to have been seen as a 'limp' and by the time I made an attempt to recover the opponents were at a convenient 15. The match ends at 29!! I dared not face my trainer who was shooting daggers at me by now and her very looks spoke volumes. Knowing her I was pretty sure I would be thrown out of the team even before we left the grounds if I did nothing to save the match and in one of the breaks she did say as much to me.


When we resumed, I was still not showing any progress and my trainer had given up. Most of the team was literally in tears. The captain tried to cover up as much as possible for the back hands but unfortunately there was only very little she could do. Even the deceptive cheering squad had chosen to stay silent as they must have felt their extra artful efforts are no longer required to sidetrack us. It was my turn to serve and my USP in ball badminton are my ace services. Without even me realizing I served one of my aces and boom we opened our account in the tie breaker!!!I was literally retaliating on the head honcho of the other team for having considered me as their key to the door of success. Inspite of severe warnings from all in my team and the coach I was stubborn on intending my serves only to her.

Our team was back to shape when the numbers started moving up on the score board. Before we knew we were at "28 all" and were playing the match point. To our advantage we were serving and I was called to use my ace!! This time the ace was not truly an ace and their back hand did pick up for a strike but fortunately it was a net roll. The referee declared us the winners and the amazing audience maintained pin drop silence as if someone had broken a very sad news.

We couldn't believe that we had done it. The other team didn’t even show up to shake hands with us as they had not anticipated this moment of losing the championship to us! This was one of the toughest tie breakers I have played ever and took us all the energy that we had saved from the 6 earlier matches to embrace the triumph!!

What seemed as a piece of cake was finally a touch and go!! I still value my contribution to the victory of the match and feel ecstatic:)

High heels - A Confidence Supplement!!

                                                

High heels used to be my obsession during my school days and I was forced to part ways with it post marriage for obvious reasons. Recently I gave in to my temptation, investing on a pair in easy spirit and ever since I feel my confidence have doubled:).

Wondering if it is the magical touch of the shoes or purely psychosomatic??

In point of fact I have invariably felt self-assured and phenomenally certain whenever I am in new clothes, glorifying high heeled footwear and finally complementing with GivenChy or Eternity!! Am struggling to understand if this feeling-high-in-new-attire is a wierd characteristic of the materialistic thyself or is it a girlie thingie or is it a genuinely human sense. However it is, it has aided me the best plausible excuse whenever I choose to go on a shopping spree!!

Walking in hightops has forever made me act like am wearing an invisible crown and swaying in an air of confidence!! I have always found my westerner associates most aplomb than most of us around and all of them wear only high heels!!! This fortifies my claims that high heels are the best confidence supplements in town and one of the secrets to women's success!!!

Why Men are never depressed

A friend of mine forwarded this note to me:)

Men Are Just Happier People-- What do you expect from such simple creatures?

1. Your last name stays put.
2. The garage is all yours.
3. Wedding plans take care of themselves.
4. Chocolate is just another snack.
5. You can be President.
6. You can never be pregnant.
7. You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.
8. You can wear NO shirt to a water park.
9. Car mechanics tell you the truth.
10. The world is your urinal.
11. You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.
12. You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.
13. Wrinkles add character.
14. Wedding dress $5000.
15. Tux rental-$100.
16. People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them.
17. New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle your feet.
18. One mood all the time.
19. Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
20. You know stuff about tanks.
21. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.
22. You can open all your own jars.
23. You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
24. If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend.
25. Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.
26. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.
27. You almost never have strap problems in public.
28. You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes.
29. Everything on your face stays its original color.
30. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.
31. You only have to shave your face and neck.
32. One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one color for all seasons.
33. You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.
34. You can 'do' your nails with a pocket knife.
35. You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
36. You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes.

No wonder men are happier.

An Average Aadhavan

The first time I dragged my whole family which includes my 3 year old toddler and elders to the theatre on a cold Sunday evening which I regretted tremendously. Had my expectations very low after reading mixed reviews and the movie didn't prove me wrong in any way. A very mediocre typical KSR masala family entertainer. The first half was much better than the second one. Infact pretty vibrant too - by the time one successfully settles down in the dancing chairs of the shoddiest theatres on earth after a lot of wrestles and free-falls the movie is already at its intermission.

The star displaying his efficieny on the Yoga aasanaas is a visual treat to any of his fans. The star definitely has a great potential and has displayed immense capabilty in the past but this movie is no challenge to the star's talent. He has been royally under used in the movie. He has done his role fine and has tried to be the savior along with Vadivelu attempting to carry the whole movie on their shoulders but unfortunately with too many unwanted star cast and a sloppy story line the duo is struggling beyond words.


Normally in any movie we tend to watch out for the chemistry between the hero and the heroine. In aadhavan no such thing exist between the lead star and the lead lady. The actual chemistry is between Surya and Vadivel which is mindblowing. The comedy track blends so well with the movie unlike what we have witnessed in the recent past and that is the only reason why a majority of the audience even sat through the first half of the movie.

One of Surya's USP is his brilliance in the romantic scenes. Interestingly there is no romance shown between the 2 of them. Not sure if this was a directorial decision or an insistence from the star! Completely misplaced songs with a middling picturisation are the only reminders that Surya and Nayanthara are the supposedly champions of the movie.


Harris has earnestly let down his audience and needless to say KSR and Udhayanidhi Stalin. One needn't be in Switzerland to score this so-called incredible music - all he needed was a taperecorder and the CD's of his earlier deliveries. Every song sounds familiar and the only passable song Hasili Fisili is turned a fiasco with its psychedelic visuals.


Star cast - did KSR feel obligated to include the long forgotten faces or was it a genuine attempt to provide them a come-back opportunity? Whatever it was, the endeavor is a disaster. Many of them did not even have a chance to deliver a single liner leave alone them getting noticed. All it did was flood the screen with human herds! Abhinaya Saraswathi Saroja Devi, calling her an actress is a gross misnomer. I wonder how this lady was even accepted as a heroine in the olden days. Did our grand parental / parental generation have such a pathetic taste? She has done due diligence in irritating the audience and getting on our nerves every frame she appears. The script writer for Vadivel's comedy track deserves special applause as he has rightly spoken the audience mind through Vadivel's dialogues.


There is yet another character who is the big cheese contributing significantly to the house roaring with laughter. It is none other than the stunt master kanal kannan. Its hard to believe this crackerjack choreographed the stunts in the star's earlier BB Ayan.

The icing to the cake is the climax...Not sure what KSR thought about his audience...he has gone acutely overboard with the churning of his hogwash..sorry masala...The star effortlessly uses a transformer cable to swing through, grabbing the rocket launcher from his dad's car and planting it on the villain's helicopter..OMG attrocity at its height.


Nayan didnt have any role to play once again emphasizing the fact that heroines are not at all required in most of the Tamil movies. The only solace is that we are not entitled to sit through the torturous skin show ordeal as always is the case with any of her movies.


I was reminded of Chandramukhi for the vast crowd in the movie, Vijay's minsara kanna for most part of the movie. Aadhavan can be good entertainment when families get together for a potluck on a wintry afternoon not knowing what to do after a heavy feast and too reluctant to suspend consciousness. A highly recommended DVD movie on a home theatre for a lively first half and the rest needing tolerance and more importantly patience!!

Who contributes to the "prosperity" of Male chauvinism

This has been bothering me for quite sometime now and thought would share my 222 cents on the backbones being instrumental for Male chauvinism to be high on the hog.

Chauvinism as widely understood in its original and primary meaning, is an exaggerated, bellicose patriotism and a blind belief in superiority and glory. By extension it has come to include an extreme and unreasoning partisanship on behalf of any group to which one belongs, especially when the partisanship includes malice and hatred towards a rival group.

Male chauvinism is a term used to describe the belief that men are superior to women. It is widely used to describe men who believe or display an attitude that women are inferior to men,speak to women as inferiors, or treat women negatively based solely upon their gender. The concept of male chauvinism itself got popular only after the 1960's which makes me think prior to 1960 even if it was prevalent, the females were either not bothered or accepted male chauvinism gracefully as their way of life. To the females then, probably men were their demi gods and there should not have been anything disturbing about their attitudes. If not, the noise about male chauvinism would have started as early as Eve's days.

Considering the 2 definitions above, clearly chauvinism is an attitude/belief. American Psychological Association has announced a study that shows that attitudes are learned, but that differences between people in some of the attitudes are also partly attributable to genetic factors. No child is born with an attitude. Hence male chauvinism as an attitude has to be acquired and can never be inherited. So if it is acquired, I wonder who plays the key role in shaping up such a disgraceful demeanor in men. When I gave it a serious thought, I was shocked to realize that its the female community who act as the major drivers in planting this shady mental outlook in the males. I have some interesting facts to substantiate my stand.

Right from the stage of conception of a child traces of chauvinism start getting displayed. We have heard enough stories on female infanticides which is the heights of male chauvinism. This custom may have been created and perpetuated by men for selfish reasons but who are the sincere carriers of this cruel act? It is a universally accepted theory that women are gentle and men are rough - also one of the historical reasons stated for mothers to be the torch bearers in the raising of a child. According to me this is the lamest excuse one can think of to escape the hardships in child rearing but for the time being let me stay tuned to the hypothesis. But here, aren't we talking about infanticides which is no more than a merciless murder - who other than the so-called rough soles can be eligible to perform this esteemed act? Unfortunately according to some studies, more than 16 million baby girls a year in India are killed by their mothers or by village midwives who happen to be women again. How can a mother having gone through the difficulties of pregnancy, instead of cherishing the result join hands for such a shameless feat?

Rules/Customs/Rituals can be framed by any one but its success or failure is solely in the hands of the followers. If only the followers, in this case the women, have intended to break the rules we wouldn't have had infanticide tales all over the country. Or if infanticide is the only available option, let the men take care of that. Why should women be presiding over this ordeal??? Coming to think of it, unless someone is thoroughly convinced that what they are doing is right, we wouldn't even be having such high numbers for female infanticides. Does that mean women are really convinced to be actively performing this evil which is nothing but a sheer display of chauvinism?

The strength of women in any village/town/dwelling area should definitely be equal or greater than the men. If all of them get together for a noble cause and raise their voice, cant such an implacable act be nibbed right in the bud? Its after all our community that is being forced into extinction. If only we think, cooperate without any hidden agenda we could have altered the fates of a number of innocent souls who were made to kiss the eternal abode within minutes of their birth for no fault of theirs. Needless to mention unity and women are obvious oxymorons!

Ideally for a lower middle/middle class family struggling to meet their ends, any kid should be a drain on the family's resources. Why only female kids are seen as an expense and male kids an income? In reality, in most cases its the girls who share the responsibility and earn the living for a family than the sons who follow footsteps of a reckless unreliable father. Ironically the family would celebrate the birth of a boy and condemn the girl.

As the child grows, there is an enormous difference in the treatment the girls and boys receive within the same four walls of a house. To quantify, the difference is to such an extent that one even wonders if they are even born to the same parents. Times are definitely changing but there were days/families where the boys would be honored with the royal treatment and girls their cheapest aides.. Girls will be bound to take up all the activities right from assisting the mom to running errands for every other soul in the house in addition to the school work if at all she is blessed with schooling.

It would be considered a crime if the boy of the house even polishes his own shoes. His poor sisters will be his maids-at-service. Why cant a boy child participate in household chores? Who sets these rules at home? Will the world turn upside down if the little master takes his own dinner plate to the wash area? Do you think the fathers insist on these senseless traditions? Hell no. Seemingly its the fathers who are more attached to the girls. But the burden of the household chores is solely on the girls. Then who does these magical wonders - obviously the Rajaji's in framing the home constitution are the mothers and we crib day in and day out about "male chauvinism."

The icing on the cake will be when the girl turns 13/15. She would be written off full term for room service and good house keeping. Just typically it would have been the girl who would have thrived with flying colors at school and boy would have been utmost an average student. But the parents will be adamant in investing on averages but clip the wings of proficients. Why cant mothers stand up for their daughters? Is it too much to ask for? Interestingly it will be the mothers who would be brain washing their daughters for such a pathetic lifestyle.

Marriage - this is yet another drop in the ocean. Marriage by definition is a social definition or a legal contract between 2 individuals that creates kinship. A successful marriage is only possible with gives and takes. Unfortunately the unsaid "deal" is that the woman always gives burning all her bridges and the men always take. Why cant it be the vice versa? The men want every moment of their wives, nailed to the floor doing the job they are hired for and inturn offering very little compassion or none in many cases. The tutorials for being the most "obedient" (custom defined) wife/daughter-in-law will be due diligently coming only from the grand mothers/great grand mothers (if any)/mothers/long forgotten aunts who promptly make their presence only in such occasions /cousin sisters who have tasted the insights of a married life/so-called friendly aunts in the neighborhood who are known to rule the society with their powerful gossips and possibly every other lady in town...have any of us even heard of such mentoring sessions for the grooms?

Once in a blue-moon if any of the ladies get out of their strained shell, the first ones to criticize them for their dare devil deal breaking act will be the "Her Highness's" in town!!Why? Shouldn't we be appreciative of our counterparts for taking the first bright steps? Instead why do we belittle our friends?

The seeds of submission are sown at the time of a girl's birth by our own breeds and grows into a tree whose branches begin to choke us throughout our lifetime. We struggle all through not knowing whether to chop it down or hope that it would wither on its own. We are our own foes and trouble makers..we don't need any external species to manipulate us. We get trained for it royally by our own motherly ancestors and ridiculously we call all this drama that we bestow upon us as "Male chauvinism"!!

On one hand we try to grab every other opportunity, spare no forums/clubs/arenas and scream from all corners on earth about the chauvinistic men while on the other, we aggressively lay a strong foundation to work for the betterment of male chauvinism. Unless the needle permits, a thread can never find its way through. It does no good to spread a net when the bird you want to catch is watching...creating such a big fuss about male chauvinism will take us no where when we have such huge issues with our own attitudes!!